January 6th, 2015
It’s no surprise that
homosexuals want to live as they see fit, be considered normal and affirmed by
society. They want to love and to be
loved. Who doesn’t? In this sense, homosexuals are very much like
heterosexuals. However, while
homosexuals may love each other, they are neither loved by, nor affirmed by,
our society in general. In fact, they
have been the butt of jokes for many years, which is why many homosexuals have kept
their lifestyle private.
Homosexuals have been
in a predicament. Either they have had to
restrict their life style and be unhappy or act as they want to and face
ridicule. The purpose of this article is
to first, present a perspective on some of the efforts used by homosexual
activists to get out of their predicament, and second, to comment on their
It seems that there
is a basic understanding, among those who are active in the homosexual
movement, and that is as long as nothing changes, nothing will change. Simply put, as long as homosexuals are quiet
about their needs, their goals of acceptance and affirmation will never be
achieved. Therefore the activists, who
are tired of waiting, have been trying to force society to change faster.
While there are many
things happening on many levels, in a broad sense, we can group the goals of
homosexual activists into two groups; first, to be able to act (in public) as
they see fit, and second, to achieve an inner peace with their place in
society. Up until now, most of their
efforts have been directed at being able to act freely in public.
As an observation, it
seems that, somewhere near the heart of homosexual discontent (in America) is
that, until recently, most Christians have considered the homosexual lifestyle
to be an abomination and condemned by God.
And until recently, most Christians have believed that they cannot
affirm the homosexual lifestyle without committing a serious offense against
God. Because of this belief, many
Christians have not affirmed homosexuals, and instead, have publicly ridiculed them.
Faced with the choice
of either repressing their homosexual lifestyle (and being unhappy), or
expressing themselves (and receiving public ridicule), some have instead chosen
a third alternative, that is, to express themselves and eliminate the public
ridicule. This choice is a huge task
because it requires changing all of society’s overt (public) negative reactions
and all of their covert (behind the scenes) negative reactions.
Their struggle to
gain society’s acceptance and affirmation started by first gaining acceptance
and affirmation from those who are the closest to them, such as their family
and friends. It appears to have been a
good place to start because most of their families and friends have continued
to love and accept them, without publicly rejecting them.
acceptance and affirmation from their families and friends, the activists moved
on to the much larger task of gaining acceptance and affirmation from
society. They staged various kinds of
public demonstrations, promoted various laws, and used the mass media to
minimize those who were openly hostile to their lifestyle. Their tactics were largely successful. However, there is still a part of society
that has yet to accept or affirm them and, consequently, many homosexuals still
feel uncomfortable in public.
Up to this point, the
homosexual struggle has been relatively easy because most people simply prefer
to avoid confrontation and conflict.
That is, as long as there is no immediate threat or discomfort from
someone else's "cause" most people will just go along. That will not be the case with many in the
religious sector because they (the final sector standing against them) are less
afraid of confrontation and conflict than the general public is.
Because the tactics
of the activists have worked so well in the past, it's reasonable to expect
that they will continue to use them against the religious sector. If so, we can expect to see more public
demonstrations, more new laws, and more pressure from the media, all focused on
the religious sector. But that may not be
enough. If they try to convert everyone
in the religious sector, their struggle will fail. Therefore, we should expect them to simply settle
for minimizing the negative voices.
Then, they will be
able to turn their attention to the second goal of their struggle, the inner
peace with their lifestyle. However,
they will find that their inner peace can only come from two sources: the
religious sector, and from God.
Unfortunately, they will have already cut the ties with the only religious
community that can give them the affirmation that they seek. While the “approving and accepting” religious
sector will indeed comfort them, there will still be a hole in their happiness
because the only religious sector that can give them the affirmation that they
seek is the one that still stands against them.
They will likely accept
the affirmation that they already have and turn their attention to their most
important and yet most difficult struggle.
It will be a struggle for an affirmation that cannot be achieved through
public demonstrations, or by more laws, or by increased social pressure. It will be a personal, internal fight, a
fight for God’s acceptance and affirmation.
homosexuals believe that there is a God who ultimately blesses or condemns,
they know that ultimately their inner peace depends on whether or not they
believe that God has blessed or condemned their lifestyle. While their struggle for inner peace has a
social aspect (e.g. obtaining the blessing of established churches), it is
primarily an internal struggle to reconcile what they want with what they
believe God wants. Their struggle will
be to convince God that what they want is okay.
This is where the
fight for the inner peace with their lifestyle will be won or lost. This is where their struggle will be an
individual struggle where they will have to choose between God’s standards and
their own standards. Ultimately, this is
where everything will be won or lost.